Tag: Stockholm

  • ChatGPT Isolation: Escaping the Trap of the Fake Therapist

    ChatGPT Isolation: Escaping the Trap of the Fake Therapist

    In today’s hyperconnected world, working remotely or for yourself might seem like the pinnacle of freedom. You imagine autonomy, flexibility, and the luxury of working from anywhere. But when you’re an expat living in Sweden or another non-English speaking country, and your closest coworker is an Artificial Intelligence (AI) chatbot, the risks of isolation can go far deeper than most people realise. ChatGPT Isolation describes what can begin as a practical convenience but slowly becomes a trap of emotional reliance and disconnection from real human support.

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    The Rise of ChatGPT Isolation and AI Companionship

    For many freelancers, remote workers, and digital nomads, tools like ChatGPT, Claude, and other generative AI systems have become a silent coworker offering feedback, summaries, or just the comfort of a reply. In moments of professional uncertainty or relationship loneliness, it can feel soothing to type out a worry and get a reassuring message back.

    A person looking into a chatbot interface symbolic of ChatGPT Isolation

    Generative AI is a powerful tool for productivity. But there is a growing body of evidence that this interaction, while seemingly helpful, comes with psychological risks:

    • MIT Media Lab researchers warn of “metacognitive laziness,” where users become less likely to think critically after prolonged AI reliance.
    • ABC News Australia and The Times UK suggest AI may be eroding writing skills, attention spans, and working memory.
    • Wall Street Journal article and follow up in Futurism and VICE describe the case of Jacob Irwin, who developed psychosis after becoming convinced that ChatGPT was a conscious being. Irwin, who had a history of autism spectrum traits and possibly ADHD, began to experience delusions, hallucinations, and an altered sense of reality that led to hospitalisation.

    As someone who works therapeutically with clients around the world, I’ve heard similar stories: individuals relying on AI tools as companions, using them to process emotions, or confiding in them as if they were therapists. These tools, no matter how articulate or responsive, cannot provide the co-regulation, reality-checking, or emotional nuance that a human can.

    Generative AI is a fake therapist.

    It’s important to acknowledge that for some neurodivergent individuals AI chatbots can feel like a safe and predictable interaction. People with autism, Aspergers, ADHD, or AuDHD in particular find ChatGPT helpful and supportive. These AI bots don’t require complex social navigation and can provide a sense of stability. For some, this is a lifeline. But it’s also a space that requires careful boundaries. AI can offer support, but it cannot replace real relational connection.

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    The Dangerous Allure of a Digital Listener

    What makes AI feel so comforting in these situations?

    • It replies instantly
    • It never judges
    • It seems knowledgeable
    • It mimics empathy

    But here’s the catch: it’s not listening. It doesn’t really know you, can’t challenge your distortions, and may reinforce your assumptions. ChatGPT Isolation means more than just social disconnection. It can hallucinate facts, offer incorrect advice, or perpetuate harmful ideas. And in the absence of real human interaction, it can deepen feelings of disconnection.

    A smartphone lying on a textbook introducing ChatGPT Isolation

    When you’re already working remotely, especially across time zones, in a foreign culture, or without regular social contact, AI can begin to fill the void. But it doesn’t actually close the gap.

    ChatGPT Isolation in Sweden: The Hidden Struggles

    Remote work in Sweden comes with its own particular set of challenges. Imagine living in a compact city apartment designed for warmth and cost-efficiency, but with little room to psychologically separate your work from your private life. Now add a Swedish winter: long, dark, and often silent. The stillness that initially feels peaceful can, over time, become isolating.

    Many expats arrive in Sweden to be with a partner, pursue a degree, or chase a change in lifestyle. They continue working remotely for organisations based in London, New York, Berlin, or Sydney, sometimes across vastly different time zones. This means late-night meetings, irregular sleep, and missing out on everyday social rhythms of local life. They may feel cut off from both their adopted home and their colleagues abroad.

    Language and cultural barriers only add to the sense of distance. Casual socialising can be difficult. Colleagues and acquaintances may seem polite but reserved. Meanwhile, behind the scenes, stress begins to build. You start sleeping poorly. You feel unnoticed. Your sense of purpose gets hazy. And in the quiet hours, you might begin to confide more in a chatbot than a real person.

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    The Illusion of Freedom

    From the outside, remote work and self-employment seem liberating in comparison to the stress of a Swedish workplace. But many find there’s no “off switch”. Your living space becomes your workplace. You’re your own harshest boss. And relationships strain under the weight of unspoken needs.

    Even in urban hubs like Stockholm, Malmö, and Gothenburg, you can go weeks without a real conversation beyond a Slack message or chatbot reply. And if you’re living in towns like Umeå, Kiruna, Borås, Örebro, Lund or other places known more for their calm than their community, those feelings can grow even more intense.

    If you’re struggling emotionally, it can be hard to know where to turn. Many English-speaking expats don’t feel comfortable navigating the Swedish healthcare system, or find it difficult to get timely appointments with a GP or therapist. In summer, much of the country slows down entirely. You might find yourself feeling lost just when you need support the most.

    Real Human Help Beats ChatGPT Isolation

    As an English-speaking therapist and coach who works online across Sweden and internationally, I help remote workers and expats:

    • Talk through isolation and its ripple effects
    • Make sense of the “AI companionship” trend and how to relate to ChatGPT Isolation more mindfully
    • Navigate relationships that are affected by long-distance dynamics or different cultural contexts
    • Deal with emotionally distant partners including gaslighting and coercive control
    • Build routines that affirm identity, rhythm, and purpose
    • Reconnect with what’s real and sustaining in life

    I offer after-hours counselling and coaching in English from the convenience of your own home or office.

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    Let’s Take the First Step Towards Ending ChatGPT Isolation

    If you’re feeling emotionally over-reliant on AI, disconnected from those around you, or unsure how to build a more grounded life in Sweden or wherever you’re living. Don’t wait until you crash.

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    You deserve better than silence, burnout, or artificial empathy.

    Reach out now to book a session. I offer regular check-ins, supportive therapy, and collaborative strategy work to help you reconnect with yourself and others.

    You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s talk.

  • Working in Sweden: How Expats Handle Work Stress and Feel Seen

    Working in Sweden: How Expats Handle Work Stress and Feel Seen

    Feel invisible working in Sweden? You’re not alone. Here’s how to stay grounded, navigate cultural norms, and reconnect with your sense of self.

    You’ve landed your job, sorted your personnummer, and even mastered the subtle art of queueing in Swedish supermarkets. But at work? Things feel… off. You’re doing your job well — but somehow, they don’t see you. Not invited to fika chats. Not included in the easy banter. And when you speak up, your ideas seem to fall flat or get brushed aside.

    For many expats and foreign-born professionals in Sweden, the workplace can feel like a polite but impenetrable fog. This isn’t just about language — it’s about invisible norms, indirect feedback, unspoken expectations, and a cultural preference for low-key everything. If you’ve ever felt like you’re technically included but not really belonging, you’re not alone.

    Let’s unpack why this happens. Let’s consider what you can do to stay grounded, connected, and confident while working in Sweden in a system that might not see you as clearly as you’d like.

    1. A Culture of Consensus — and What It Doesn’t Say

    Swedish workplaces are known for their “flat hierarchies,” where the boss is more of a facilitator than a dictator, and decisions are made through group consensus. On paper, this sounds wonderfully egalitarian — but in practice, it can leave newcomers confused and out of sync.

    A woman with dreadlocks working on an imac beside a man who is also working in Sweden

    You’re unlikely to be given direct instructions or open praise while working in Sweden. This is not manipulation or coercive control. Feedback tends to be indirect, sometimes cloaked in silence. In meetings, people pause a lot. They speak softly. They leave long gaps. And if you come from a more direct or expressive work culture, you might read this as passive, dismissive, or even cold.

    The result? You might start second-guessing yourself — “Did I say too much?” “Was I too assertive?” “Did I just overstep?”

    This isn’t about doing it wrong — it’s about operating within an unfamiliar social grammar.

    Try this: Instead of trying to match Swedish indirectness, aim for respectful clarity. Express your ideas with warmth and openness, and then invite feedback gently. For example: “I have an idea I’d love your thoughts on…”

    2. When You Feel Like You’re Not Really There

    You might be showing up to work every day — contributing, collaborating, keeping pace — and still feel oddly invisible. It’s a kind of quiet exclusion, not always intentional, but real enough. You’re not being mistreated, but you’re also not quite part of the fabric.

    According to a BBC report, burnout and work stress in Sweden is on the rise. For many navigating expat work stress in Sweden, this sense of being on the outside looking in can build slowly. It’s not about one big moment, but a series of small silences. When they speak over you. When they don’t respond to your suggestions. When you realise you haven’t had a proper chat with anyone in days.

    Swedish work culture prizes independence and understatement. That means Swedes often save social energy for outside work hours, and even then, relationships take time. So if you’re feeling left out, know this: it’s not your fault — and you’re not alone.

    Try this: Don’t interpret distance as disapproval. Instead of withdrawing, consider gently naming what you’re noticing with someone you trust: “I’ve been trying to get to know people, but it’s been tricky. How do you usually build relationships here?”

    This is where therapy or coaching can help — not by fixing you, but by giving you a space to hear yourself think. As a counsellor, I often assist people feeling adrift while working in Sweden. Rumination, or overthinking, can actually create more stress. Whether you’re based in Stockholm or working remotely from elsewhere in Europe, having a sounding board — someone who listens with empathy and helps you make sense of what’s happening — can be a lifeline.

    3. The Social Side of Working in Sweden — And Why Fika Isn’t Just Coffee

    A group of colleagues working in Sweden at a table having fika together

    On the surface, fika is a coffee break — maybe with a cinnamon bun, maybe with some small talk. But beneath that, it’s a social ritual. It’s where Swedes build trust, bond, and — let’s be honest — some of the real decision-making happens.

    But for newcomers, fika can be confusing. You’re not always sure they are inviting you. You might feel like you’re intruding. You might sit down, then realise no one really talks to you.

    Understanding cultural differences in relationships is important. In a culture where emotional energy is often subtle, fika is paradoxically both low-pressure and high-stakes. It can be where you start to feel connected — or more left out than ever.

    Try this: Shift your goal from belonging to simply showing up. You don’t have to perform, just be present. Ask a question. Share something small. Familiarity, not flashiness, builds connection over time.

    In cities like Uppsala or Malmö, where international workers are common but social structures remain tight, these small acts of consistency help you ease into connection, on your own terms.

    4. Staying Grounded When You’re Questioning Your Value

    When your input is overlooked and your social cues don’t land, you may begin to question your value. This is especially true for foreigners working in Sweden who are navigating workplace silence.

    The danger is that you begin to shrink: you stop offering ideas, start editing yourself, and eventually retreat emotionally. It’s a quiet erosion of confidence.

    Try this: Anchor yourself in what you know to be true. Write down your values, your strengths, the things others have appreciated in you. These are reminders of your professional identity — they’re not up for negotiation.

    A group of colleagues working in Sweden sitting around a table while their workmate with red hair stands in the foreground.

    This is often the turning point when people seek therapy or coaching. Through regular conversations, I help clients rediscover their inner reference point. I offer encouragement and reflection, not performance tips. Just a place to reconnect with yourself.

    5. You Don’t Have to Fix Yourself to Fit In

    Sometimes the loudest message isn’t spoken: it’s the quiet pressure to adapt, to adjust, to tone yourself down. But adaptation is not the same as self-erasure.

    When working in Sweden, the ideal of ‘lagom’ — not too much, not too little but ‘normal’ — can feel hard to achieve. But you don’t have to erase your energy or personality to survive here.

    Try this: Think about how you can translate yourself, rather than change yourself. What environments support your confidence? What kinds of interactions give you energy?

    Whether you’re based in a startup in Gothenburg or working freelance from home, your sense of belonging doesn’t have to depend on others’ approval. It can grow from the inside out — with a little support.

    Final Thoughts: Finding Your Place Working in Sweden Without Losing Yourself

    You may have started working in Sweden with curiosity and hope, only to find yourself feeling invisible at your job. You’re not imagining it, and you’re not overreacting. Cultural norms can be subtle but powerful — and they affect how we see ourselves.

    Whether you’re navigating expat work stress in Sweden, trying to understand Swedish work culture, or just needing a safe space to process what’s happening, know this: you don’t have to figure it all out alone.

    I offer online counselling and coaching in English to individuals living across Sweden and Europe. Whether you’re in Malmö, Stockholm, Gothenburg or Uppsala, I’m here to help you reconnect with your confidence, find language for what you’re experiencing, and move forward with clarity.

    Try this: Book a consultation today. Let’s talk about what you’re facing — and explore what might feel possible next.

  • Keep Your Head: Managing Mental Health During Coronavirus in Sweden

    Keep Your Head: Managing Mental Health During Coronavirus in Sweden

    Mental Health has become a buzzword expression around the world since the COVID19 pandemic began. When regulations and public health advice keeps us socially distant, how can go about managing mental health during Coronavirus to keep it together?

    The coronavirus COVID-19 is a source of stress for many English speakers in Sweden. While health authorities in the UK, Australia and San Francisco enact policies such as of ‘lock-down’, containment, quarantine and ‘shelter-in-place’, the Swedish government proceeds with a business-as-usual approach, emphasising personal freedom and relying on the Swedish culture of collective responsibility. Expats and other English speakers immigrants in Stockholm, Gothenburg and Malmo are understandably worried. When your adopted country follows a policy dramatically different to most others and at odds with many scientists it makes sense that you might feel vulnerable.

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    If you are alone, confused and unsure what to do, the first thing is to focus on what is within your control and let go of what isn’t. That’s part of what I call ‘keeping your head’. Everybody has the capacity to lower their own stress response, although knowing this isn’t enough. We start by becoming aware of what is going on in the body and then act to change how we feel. That takes practice but it is your first step in managing mental health during Coronavirus.

    Symptoms of Coronavirus Pandemic Stress

    Both irritability and withdrawal from contact with others are common signs of acute stress and declining mental health. These parallel the ‘fight or flight’ response that has evolved to protect us. You might be experiencing one or the other or both. The usual symptoms of anxiety and depression – difficulties with concentration or memory, restlessness, panic, a sense of hopelessness or doom, sadness and feelings of worthlessness – might also be present. If you take the time, you will notice their corresponding sensations.

    Take a few moments now to sit in silence and notice what is happening in your body. Where do you feel tension? How busy are your thoughts? What sensations do you feel when you pay attention to your breath or your heartbeat? Try this 3 minute STOP technique to ground to the present moment and recover your awareness.

    Forgetfulness, trouble focusing and an inability to solve problems or know what to do are signs that anxiety has affected your cognition. The Acute Stress Response (also known as ‘Fight or Flight’) has another manifestation: Freeze. This is the kind of paralysis of both thought and action we might experience when a stressor starts to shut down cognitive functioning. To the body, it’s the same phenomenon as an animal might experience when suddenly confronted, like a deer that freezes at the realisation it has been seen or the ‘rabbit-in-the-headlights’ response of a beast on a road at night. When a stressor becomes overwhelming, our capacity to reason and use logic drops away and our animal self reacts in self-protection.

    The Importance of Self Care and Managing Mental Health during Coronavirus

    I work with expats and English speakers around the world and have noticed the impact to mental health is similar whether the person is in Birmingham, Bahrain or Beijing. People are on edge with the ongoing changes to public health ‘rules’ as well as the uncertainty about the virus itself. Many are WTF (working from home), whether by choice or obligation, and this is putting pressure on relationships and disrupting well-being routines that were taken for granted. Even those in the ‘open’ cities of Sweden – Stockholm, Gothenburg, Malmo, Uppsala – are struggling emotionally and physically. As much as the government campaigns might try to convince us otherwise, the coronavirus pandemic and ‘social distancing’ divides us, it doesn’t bring us together. We have to work at staying connected, while managing mental health during Coronavirus, and that takes energy.

    The 5 Fundamentals of Well-Being are:

    1. Adequate sleep;
    2. Regular, nutritious meals;
    3. Regular exercise;
    4. A balance between work, rest and play;
    5. The opportunity to talk about problems.

    How many of those can you tick off? Checking in with yourself is just as, if not more, important as connecting with others. To know what you need from others, you first need to have good contact with yourself. If you have noticed things don’t feel right, take some time to listen to your sensations and see if you recognise your emotional state. You might like to try one of these self-compassion exercises. Your body can guide you to what is important right now. Listening to your body is the first step to keeping your head. And if you are struggling with knowing what you need, a conversation with a supportive professional can help.

    To make an appointment or find out more about my services, contact me.

  • What To Do When Your Husband, Wife or Partner Refuses to Go to Couples Counselling

    What To Do When Your Husband, Wife or Partner Refuses to Go to Couples Counselling

    Relationship counselling starts too late for most couples and when one of the partners decides they need help, it’s not unusual for the spouse to be resistant to couples counselling. So what can you do if your partner won’t attend therapy?


    People often delay relationship counselling out of embarrassment or to avoid cost. Some partners will refuse as part of the power-play that is occurring in the relationship. As an English-speaking couples counsellor working in Sweden I found that couples therapy wasn’t always the answer to saving a marriage or other relationship. There are alternatives for dealing with conflict in relationships when couples counselling is not an option.

    1. Find an English-Speaking Therapist and Access Your Own Support

    If you are struggling with convincing your husband, wife, sambo, or särbo to see a couples therapist, there’s no doubt you can use support yourself. You see the signs that something is wrong in the relationship and feel unhappy. You are both arguing too often, sex is non-existent, or you discover your partner is ‘cheating’ on you (being unfaithful). You might be recognising the toxic signs of emotional abuse, criticism, manipulation or even gaslighting. And you might be exhausted from trying to make changes. Your anxiety is a sign there is something wrong. In this situation the best thing you can do for the relationship and for yourself is to seek your own counselling support.

    Expats and others living in Sweden know we’re instructed to always put the life jacket and oxygen mask on ourselves first. Why then do we try to appease our partners or sacrifice our own needs in the hope that our partners see this and change? When change doesn’t happen it can leave us feeling hopeless and depressed. When you’re already struggling with Swedish culture shock, climate or work-issues your relationship or marriage needs to be a place of intimacy and comfort, not one of distress.

    Looking after yourself through getting individual support from a counsellor isn’t ‘selfish’. You can’t help someone from a weak position. Being generous with yourself will refresh you and make it possible to either save the relationship or protect yourself if you need to leave. Being stingy with yourself and denying yourself the care you need is more likely to result in you feeling resentful or regretful in the future.

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    2. Encourage Your Partner to Book into Supportive Individual Counselling

    Often, by the time couples agree on counselling, there is already a lot of toxicity in the relationship. It’s hard to come back to a loving relationship when so much hurt is being felt by just one of the partners, let alone both. When one person is resistant to couples counselling, even if that person eventually agrees to attend, it can take some time before they relax enough to trust the therapist and fully participate in the process. You might have more success in encouraging your sambo or spouse to see an individual counsellor instead pressuring them to attend a couples session. Going to relationship counselling together can present too high a threshold for some couples.

    The suggestion your partner attends individual counselling will be more reasonable if you already have your own therapist. If you don’t, your partner might assume you are blaming them instead of seeing it as a shared issue. Be the person you want your partner to be and role model the self-care you would like them to take. When both partners access their own support each individual becomes clearer about their own needs. A couples counselling session will be more successful when and if both partners feel ready to attend.

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    3. Can This Relationship Be Saved through Couples Counselling? Is Separation or Divorce Necessary?

    Relationship counselling has just two fundamental purposes:

    • To support the relationship or marriage to grow or…
    • To help the relationship come to an end and assist the couple to separate.

    It’s not the job of the couples therapist to take sides or be a referee and support one individual over the other. If you are hoping this will happen in a couples session, it might be better to find a therapist just for yourself! Likewise, if one of the partners wants to end the relationship and the other doesn’t, couples counselling serves little purpose apart from providing the therapist with an income. In this situation, the relationship needs to end. Give yourself the support you need to transition into independence after separation or divorce.

    If there is violence in the relationship, and especially if children are witnessing violence, there is no question: you and your partner must separate, at least temporarily. If it is your partner who is committing the violence and they won’t leave, contact the police but get out of harm’s way yourself in any case. No argument is worth risking your safety over.

    A couple came to see me in Stockholm asking me to teach them how to ‘fight’ better. I told them it was not something I offered. If they wanted to remain together, I told them I could help them learn to listen to each other and also to be more assertive. There are never two ‘winners’ in a fight and more often it ends in both sides losing. Approaches like the Gottman Method or Marshall Rosenberg’s Non-Violent Communication can be used to train couples to approach each other differently. But these skills rarely work when all the goodwill has been eroded through fighting or toxic silences. This might be time to see a therapist about breaking up.

    If you still feel love for your partner, and you know it is mutual, choosing an English speaking couples counsellor might offer a way back to intimacy and trust. But in any case, even if you are in doubt, don’t wait to get help. If you are experiencing unhappiness in your relationship, make an appointment with your own supportive counsellor or therapist today.

  • Online Therapy or Face to Face Counselling?

    Online Therapy or Face to Face Counselling?

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  • “Tools for Better Living”: 6 English Speaking Coaching Sessions for Expats in Stockholm and across Sweden

    “Tools for Better Living”: 6 English Speaking Coaching Sessions for Expats in Stockholm and across Sweden

    This fall I’m offering a flexible course that combines both coaching and counselling in a short series of consultations. These sessions are designed specifically for expats and other English speakers seeking direction. Are you looking for some tools for dealing with change or adjustment? Interested in taking a series of sessions to kick-start your motivation? Read on!

    Those of us who have been expats in Stockholm for a number of years know the winters can be tough. Swedes know it too and, although most of them have grown up with the darkness and cold that comes with a Swedish winter, many still struggle. Whether you are in your first few years of living in Scandinavia, or you have lived here all your life, there is good sense in using the autumn to prepare psychologically and emotionally for what is to come.

    6 Sessions of Coaching or Counselling, 5 Suggested Themes

    This series combines the approaches of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), Narrative Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Life Coaching, Relaxation Strategies, Skills Training (including Stress Management and Communication Training) and Mindfulness. I’ve based it around a presentation of the most common psychological tools I use in my practice but will tailor it to suit your circumstances.

    My approach is based on the idea that, through conversation based meetings, we develop ideas and strategies together that neither one of us might have envisaged using before. In this way, you bring your skills and knowledge as a contribution to the sessions and I also introduce theories and tools as possibilities for you to start using. Of course all the sessions and everything you say to me is confidential.

    The plan below is a guide only and we can modify it according to your needs.

    Want to know more already? Email me!

    #1   Who Am I?

    Our sense of identity can be quite important to how we manage in new situations or cope with change. Who are you and what has contributed to your sense of yourself, particularly since you moved to Sweden?

    The first appointment is a kind of assessment where together we discuss what you would like to cover in the course of sessions and share whatever aspects of your story you would like to tell me. You also have the opportunity to ask me any questions you would like answered. At the end of the session I can give you an interesting identity-based task to take away and complete in your own time, if you like. ‘Homework’ is always optional. Some people want it and some don’t, so you can make the choice.

    If you would like to know more about me in advance, read the About Ash Rehn page on this website. And I welcome you to contact me prior to the session if you would like to know anything more about me. It is important that we can work together and for you to feel a sense of comfort during our meetings.

    #2   Recovering Energy, Motivation and Establishing Routines

    It is not unusual for people to want to meet with a coach or therapist when they are at, or have been at, a low ebb. I’m used to seeing people struggling with motivation, lacking energy or feeling like they have failed. At the same time, it is not always that way. It can be more like chaos that needs sorting out. So part of our work together might be looking at what you want or what you appreciate about your life or what you need. Sometimes this involves considering your ‘vision’ for life. Sometimes people feel stuck, sometimes they feel lost, sometimes they just want me to help them sort through ‘stuff’ or ‘issues’. Whatever the case is, we can discuss it together.

    #3   Managing Stress, Coping and Empowerment Strategies

    How you deal with change often depends on your past experiences, the techniques you have learned or the resources you have at hand. In our sessions we can consider the skills you are using now as well as what you might need to recover or discover. If you are caught in some Mind Traps (cognitive distortions in thinking) we can identify these and determine alternative psychological strategies to help you escape or re-establish balance. I can also show you some physical practices you can use at any time to reduce anxiety and your stress response.

    #4   Career / Relationships / Friendships / Family: Planning and Goal Setting

    Would you like to show me what your life looks like now and what your ideal life would be? Often this can be a way of envisaging the future as well. Collaborative consultations can offer the first steps forward to making changes across a number of the aspects of our lives. Together we can explore changes you want to make in any or all of these areas and what might be required for moving forward. It tends to be much easier to do this in collaboration.

    #5   Improved Communication for Relationships

    Frustration and Anger are two of the most common emotions I discuss with people who meet me in Stockholm or online. If our needs are not being met, we can find our emotions about certain events and incidents spilling into other aspects of our life. And that affects our relationships. Taking an alternative approach to your standard way of communicating is one way to lower the frustration you are experiencing. I can show you some other possibilities and we can practice these in the sessions.

    #6   Awareness, Acknowledgement, Acceptance and Building Resilience

    It is not generally possible to change everything overnight. Meeting and having a conversation about what concerns you can also be a way of tapping into some other perspectives. Part of this work is about holding onto what you have learned or discovered. Part of the coaching can even include awareness-building techniques like Mindfulness. In these 6 sessions, I offer a start to a process that can take you in new directions. You might decide to continue with something new we discover together during our work or you might even decide to continue with me. With your permission, I will follow up by email at least twice over the 2 months following the series. If you want to continue, we can discuss the possibilities to keep going, what you have achieved and what might remain outstanding.

    Pay as You Go or Save with a Package of Sessions

    This flexible course is offered as pay as you go or you can receive 6 sessions for the cost of 5 if you pre-pay the series. You can attend just the first session and decide if you want to continue with no obligation to pay for more. You are welcome to decide a few days after the first appointment whether you want to pay for the whole series or pay as you go. I do ask for a deposit of 200 crowns for the first appointment but you have 7 days from the session to pay for the balance. Please contact me for further details of the fee.

    No Guarantees or False Promises, but Possibilities, Opportunities and Open Dialogue

    It would be quite unethical of me to make false promises about how successful this short series of appointments will be for you, particularly when I have not yet met you. So I don’t offer a guarantee that you will achieve everything you ever hoped for in just 6 sessions. But I do offer to be fully present with you for the sessions and to work collaboratively with you in ways you find comfortable.

    It is my professional experience that once people start talking, what they are struggling with often changes or even dissolves. It does not happen at the same pace for everyone, but making a start will give you a better understanding of what might be required. I have chosen a framework of 6 sessions as many people find this is just enough to launch them into self-sufficiency. The relief of talking to a professional in a confidential setting can be influential, as can the possibilities for dialogue, acknowledgement, exploration and even confession.

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    Ash Rehn QindsmBook Now to Secure Appointment Times

    • A limited number of these sessions are now available daytimes and evenings during September and October.
    • Sessions are available both in-person ‘face to face’ in Stockholm and ‘face to face’ by Skype webcam (or audio-only if you prefer).
    • Possibilities for continuing include the option of email counselling once the course is concluded.

    Make an enquiry about available times and fees now through my contact page.

    I look forward to hearing from you!

    Ash Rehn BSocWk, MA, MAASW (acc.)