Tag: Therapist

  • ChatGPT Isolation: Escaping the Trap of the Fake Therapist

    ChatGPT Isolation: Escaping the Trap of the Fake Therapist

    In today’s hyperconnected world, working remotely or for yourself might seem like the pinnacle of freedom. You imagine autonomy, flexibility, and the luxury of working from anywhere. But when you’re an expat living in Sweden or another non-English speaking country, and your closest coworker is an Artificial Intelligence (AI) chatbot, the risks of isolation can go far deeper than most people realise. ChatGPT Isolation describes what can begin as a practical convenience but slowly becomes a trap of emotional reliance and disconnection from real human support.

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    The Rise of ChatGPT Isolation and AI Companionship

    For many freelancers, remote workers, and digital nomads, tools like ChatGPT, Claude, and other generative AI systems have become a silent coworker offering feedback, summaries, or just the comfort of a reply. In moments of professional uncertainty or relationship loneliness, it can feel soothing to type out a worry and get a reassuring message back.

    A person looking into a chatbot interface symbolic of ChatGPT Isolation

    Generative AI is a powerful tool for productivity. But there is a growing body of evidence that this interaction, while seemingly helpful, comes with psychological risks:

    • MIT Media Lab researchers warn of “metacognitive laziness,” where users become less likely to think critically after prolonged AI reliance.
    • ABC News Australia and The Times UK suggest AI may be eroding writing skills, attention spans, and working memory.
    • Wall Street Journal article and follow up in Futurism and VICE describe the case of Jacob Irwin, who developed psychosis after becoming convinced that ChatGPT was a conscious being. Irwin, who had a history of autism spectrum traits and possibly ADHD, began to experience delusions, hallucinations, and an altered sense of reality that led to hospitalisation.

    As someone who works therapeutically with clients around the world, I’ve heard similar stories: individuals relying on AI tools as companions, using them to process emotions, or confiding in them as if they were therapists. These tools, no matter how articulate or responsive, cannot provide the co-regulation, reality-checking, or emotional nuance that a human can.

    Generative AI is a fake therapist.

    It’s important to acknowledge that for some neurodivergent individuals AI chatbots can feel like a safe and predictable interaction. People with autism, Aspergers, ADHD, or AuDHD in particular find ChatGPT helpful and supportive. These AI bots don’t require complex social navigation and can provide a sense of stability. For some, this is a lifeline. But it’s also a space that requires careful boundaries. AI can offer support, but it cannot replace real relational connection.

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    The Dangerous Allure of a Digital Listener

    What makes AI feel so comforting in these situations?

    • It replies instantly
    • It never judges
    • It seems knowledgeable
    • It mimics empathy

    But here’s the catch: it’s not listening. It doesn’t really know you, can’t challenge your distortions, and may reinforce your assumptions. ChatGPT Isolation means more than just social disconnection. It can hallucinate facts, offer incorrect advice, or perpetuate harmful ideas. And in the absence of real human interaction, it can deepen feelings of disconnection.

    A smartphone lying on a textbook introducing ChatGPT Isolation

    When you’re already working remotely, especially across time zones, in a foreign culture, or without regular social contact, AI can begin to fill the void. But it doesn’t actually close the gap.

    ChatGPT Isolation in Sweden: The Hidden Struggles

    Remote work in Sweden comes with its own particular set of challenges. Imagine living in a compact city apartment designed for warmth and cost-efficiency, but with little room to psychologically separate your work from your private life. Now add a Swedish winter: long, dark, and often silent. The stillness that initially feels peaceful can, over time, become isolating.

    Many expats arrive in Sweden to be with a partner, pursue a degree, or chase a change in lifestyle. They continue working remotely for organisations based in London, New York, Berlin, or Sydney, sometimes across vastly different time zones. This means late-night meetings, irregular sleep, and missing out on everyday social rhythms of local life. They may feel cut off from both their adopted home and their colleagues abroad.

    Language and cultural barriers only add to the sense of distance. Casual socialising can be difficult. Colleagues and acquaintances may seem polite but reserved. Meanwhile, behind the scenes, stress begins to build. You start sleeping poorly. You feel unnoticed. Your sense of purpose gets hazy. And in the quiet hours, you might begin to confide more in a chatbot than a real person.

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    A person alone on a Swedish train platform on a winter day while it is snowing

    The Illusion of Freedom

    From the outside, remote work and self-employment seem liberating in comparison to the stress of a Swedish workplace. But many find there’s no “off switch”. Your living space becomes your workplace. You’re your own harshest boss. And relationships strain under the weight of unspoken needs.

    Even in urban hubs like Stockholm, Malmö, and Gothenburg, you can go weeks without a real conversation beyond a Slack message or chatbot reply. And if you’re living in towns like Umeå, Kiruna, Borås, Örebro, Lund or other places known more for their calm than their community, those feelings can grow even more intense.

    If you’re struggling emotionally, it can be hard to know where to turn. Many English-speaking expats don’t feel comfortable navigating the Swedish healthcare system, or find it difficult to get timely appointments with a GP or therapist. In summer, much of the country slows down entirely. You might find yourself feeling lost just when you need support the most.

    Real Human Help Beats ChatGPT Isolation

    As an English-speaking therapist and coach who works online across Sweden and internationally, I help remote workers and expats:

    • Talk through isolation and its ripple effects
    • Make sense of the “AI companionship” trend and how to relate to ChatGPT Isolation more mindfully
    • Navigate relationships that are affected by long-distance dynamics or different cultural contexts
    • Deal with emotionally distant partners including gaslighting and coercive control
    • Build routines that affirm identity, rhythm, and purpose
    • Reconnect with what’s real and sustaining in life

    I offer after-hours counselling and coaching in English from the convenience of your own home or office.

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    Let’s Take the First Step Towards Ending ChatGPT Isolation

    If you’re feeling emotionally over-reliant on AI, disconnected from those around you, or unsure how to build a more grounded life in Sweden or wherever you’re living. Don’t wait until you crash.

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    You deserve better than silence, burnout, or artificial empathy.

    Reach out now to book a session. I offer regular check-ins, supportive therapy, and collaborative strategy work to help you reconnect with yourself and others.

    You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s talk.

  • Counselling, Coaching and Therapy in Stockholm

    Counselling, Coaching and Therapy in Stockholm

    Counselling, Coaching & Therapy in English

    I am currently available for online (Skype) appointments and consultations via Email Exchange. If you would like to find out more about my online services including online therapy and webcam counselling, or for an update on my availability, please contact me. These therapy services are available in English throughout Sweden and in other countries. I’m not currently providing appointments in-person in Stockholm and do not have capacity to meet with new couples at present, however you are welcome to contact me as an individual if you want relationship counselling.

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  • 10 Questions to Ask Your Prospective Counsellor or Therapist Who Works In English

    10 Questions to Ask Your Prospective Counsellor or Therapist Who Works In English

    Have you reached a turning point in your life and want to find a therapist who works in English? Do you need counselling for relationship issues, stress or a break-up? Or would you like to find an English speaking coach to improve life generally? Here are ten important questions to ask your prospective counsellor or therapist. I’ve provided my own answers to give you a sense of where I fit according to these criteria.

    1. How long was your therapy training?

    My therapy training commenced when I started training as a counsellor in 1989 and it has not stopped since! Over the last 30+ years I have undertaken Bachelors and Masters degrees in Social Work, specialist narrative psychotherapy training through the Dulwich Centre in Adelaide, Australia and completed many short courses and workshops in a range of therapeutic approaches. These include CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy), DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) skills training, Mindfulness, Psychoeducation (including Motivational Interviewing), Stress Management, Anger Management, Relaxation Strategies, Problem Solving and therapy for adult survivors of child abuse.

    A good therapist does not stop his or her education simply when a qualification is achieved. Professional development must be ongoing. Each year I attend a number of training activities and conferences and regularly share the outcomes of these with my clients.

    2. Under which title, ‘coach’, ‘counsellor’ or ‘therapist’ would you be allowed to work in your own country?

    In both Australia and England, I am allowed to use all 3 of these titles: coach, counsellor and psychotherapist. In Sweden the title ‘psychotherapist’ (or psykoterapeut in Swedish) is a protected title and only practitioners licensed by the Swedish National Health and Welfare Authority – Socialstyrelsen – can use that title. I have not applied to be licensed as a psychotherapist in Sweden and instead refer to myself as a samtalsterapeut (counsellor) or narrative therapist who works in English. Psychotherapist training in Sweden is limited to certain methods or approaches and applicants for a Swedish license must demonstrate compliance with particularly Swedish requirements. I have found that most of the people who meet with me are far more interested in the benefits of a therapist who speaks their language and understands their culture than they are in meeting with someone who fits precise Swedish requirements or works through the Swedish healthcare system.

    3. How often do you have supervision?

    I generally attend supervision at least once a month and my commitment to supervision meets the recommendations of the AASW and BACP. Supervision for counsellors and therapists is not the same as supervision in a management situation. It means something completely different. It is about discussing professional issues in a structured way and ensuring the counsellor or therapist is taking care of their own well-being. It helps counsellors, psychotherapists, psychologists and social workers ensure their integrity and ethical practice. Counsellors and therapists in private practice will generally be paying for private supervision from a more or equally experienced person. I have such an arrangement with a more experienced practitioner and also engage in regular peer supervision with colleagues.

    4. How long have you been practising?

    I began practising as a counsellor in 1989 and have worked across the community, government and private sectors over the years. Since 2005 I have been specialising in mental health counselling and therapy. I commenced private practice as a therapist and mental health counsellor in 2008. I established myself as a therapist who works in English in Stockholm in 2010.

    5. As a therapist who works in English, what is your theoretical approach?

    My practice is informed by a range of theoretical approaches. When undertaking advanced therapeutic work with people, it tends not to be helpful to be limited to a singular technique or method. In Sweden, counselling and therapy is dominated by Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT or KBT) and Psychoanalysis but there are many other ways of working together if these do not appeal to you. I am particularly drawn to dialogical and narrative practices and the work of a number of well-known therapists including Harlene Anderson, Johnella Bird, Art Fisher, David Epston, Michael White. I enjoy using the Self-Compassion model developed by Kristin Neff. If you would like more information about these approaches, I would be happy to send you some links if you email me for details.

    6. Do you offer a 50 or a 60 minute hour?

    My standard appointments are 60 minutes. I generally leave at least 15 minutes as a buffer between appointments so that we are not rushed. If I have more time available, I usually don’t mind if we continue a little longer if it is helpful to you.

    7. What do the initials behind your name actually mean?

    Currently the initials after my name are: BSocWk, MA, MSc, AMHSW. They stand for Bachelor of Social Work, Master of Arts, Master of Science and Accredited Mental Health Social Worker.

    8. Are you an accredited member of a professional organisation?

    Yes, as above, I am an accreditated member of the AASW in Australia. This accreditation means I have a qualification awarded by a professional association as a specialist mental health provider and can offer focussed psychological services under the Australian government Medicare program when I am meeting with clients in Australia (similar to the services provided by psychologists that are reimbursed by the government there). The AASW supports my practice in Europe and represents my professional interests, however unfortunately Medicare will not reimburse appointment fees unless both myself and my patient are in Australia.

    9. Do you need insurance to be a talk therapist who works in English?

    Yes, as an accredited social worker and member of the AASW, I hold both professional indemnity and public liability insurance.

    10. How much do you charge and do you accept insurance?

    You can see my consultation charges on my fees page. It is up to your insurance provider whether they will pay for my services. Many insurers will only pay for psychology providers they work with regularly. If your insurer or company agrees to cover the cost, you will need to pay for your consultation with me upfront and then claim back from them. One benefit of not using insurance is that our consultations will not be on your health record in Sweden or in your home country. If you require your invoice made out to a particular company name, please advise me in advance.

    Keep in mind that cost is just one factor to take into account when choosing a coach, counsellor or therapist who works in English. You might find better help from a more experienced practitioner.

    You can read more on the About Ash Rehn page. If you are interested in making an appointment, please contact me by email or phone. I’m happy to answer any further questions you might have.

  • Can Depression that Started in Sweden be Treated with Exercise?

    Can Depression that Started in Sweden be Treated with Exercise?

    Improvement to mood is one of the most obvious effects of exercise. But can exercise actually be used as a treatment for depression?

    An article recently featured in the Stockholm daily newspaper Dagens Nyheter says it can.  Jill Taube, a Swedish psychiatrist, has written a book about how exercise can help to cure mental illness. She points to studies that show the effects of exercise not only last longer than those of antidepressant medication, but physical activity appears to prevent the recurrence of depression better than antidepressants.

    Exercise: A Prescription for Depression

    Taube’s exercise ‘prescription’ echoes what the health and fitness experts have been saying for at least 20 years: a combination of cardio and strength activities for 30-45 minutes, at least 3 times a week. Obviously those who have not been exercising need to take it easy to begin with and build up to this. But the idea that there is something people can do themselves about depressed mood is great news for those who want to recover from depression and need more hope in their lives (although it might depress the drug companies!).

    Antidepressent Use in Sweden, an Increasing Trend

    What makes this research so remarkable is that Sweden has one of the highest rates of antidepressant prescription. According to OECD statistics, Sweden has the 3rd highest consumption rate of antidepressants in Europe (after Iceland and Denmark). And antidepressant prescription is on the rise in Sweden. The National Board of Health and Welfare (Socialstyrelsen) has issued guidelines to try to cut the rise of prescribed depression medication and encourage the use of talk therapy. But these changes will take time because the culture around prescribing antidepressants needs to change. A survey of GP attitudes from 2004 indicated that most doctors considered drug treatment with antidepressants alone was effective and sufficient in most cases of depression. Less than half the doctors thought that psychotherapy was required as a complement. This is despite reliable evidence of the effectiveness of talk therapy against moderate depression and the combination of counselling with medication being considered best practice. There is also evidence that effectiveness of antidepressant use really depends on the therapeutic relationship between doctor and patient.

    Relief for Anxiety and Depression through Exercising

    As a doctor, Taube is concerned with biochemical explanations of how exercise actually works and the article in Dagens Nyheter explains some of this. For the layperson it’s enough to know that it does work. Therapists are familiar with the way depression often goes hand in hand with anxiety (I often describe them as hanging around together, like schoolyard bullies) so it’s no surprise that exercise appears to help relieve anxiety as well.

    Taube, who has herself experienced depression, is a dancing enthusiast but explains that other exercise like taking a walk or spin class can give the mind a break from Anxious Thoughts. We know that mental health difficulties can generally lead to poor physical health not only because problems like anxiety and depression stop us from getting out and enjoying life, but because the drugs that are prescribed for them have a slowing down effect on those who take such drugs. So people who are taking medication because they are affected by anxiety, depression and other mental health problems often gain weight and suffer cardiovascular difficulties or musculoskeletal problems because they don’t move themselves as much. Of course it is important to still seek the help of health professionals, particularly if you are experiencing a severe depression or having thoughts of wanting to end your life. Talking together regularly with a doctor, counsellor, therapist or psychologist is a better alternative to just taking drugs on your own.

    In 2012 I will be continuing Walking-Talk Therapy  for those who want to have therapeutic and coaching conversations ‘on the go’. Going for a walk together through Rålambshovsparken, along Norr Mälarstrand or around Riddarfjärden is a great physical alternative to sitting down. Of course, if you prefer to talk inside, we can still meet over a tea or coffee in my private consulting room at Fridhemsplan. And for those who are outside of Stockholm or prefer more privacy, online counselling is always available over the internet.

    Send me an email or call me on 08-559 22 636 and leave a message if you would like to make an appointment.

    Jill Taube’s book “Själ och Kropp” is widely available from book retailers and online, but unfortunately only in Swedish at this stage.